It’s not uncommon for us to get hung up on something. A break up, embarrassing run in, or an unexpected event can do more than just ruin your day. It can hang around, lingering in the actions and decisions we make. And what’s more common than getting our feelings hurt? Refusing to let go.
Sometimes it’s not that you can’t let go but it’s that you aren’t ready to let go. I’m sure a few of you bristled at that. After all, how can it be that you’re not ready to let go if you’re here. As someone who was in that position myself, I’m not going to lie to you. And if at any point you feel slightly uncomfortable by what you’re reading, then there’s a reason!
1. Something is holding you back.
Part of whatever it is that you’re trying to let go of, still calls you home. With past relationships and negative false beliefs it’s easy to keep them in your heart. They’re comfortable. It’s what you know and it’s what is comfortable. If you hold a belief that flying too high can lead to disastrous consequences, then why would you ever apply yourself fully? This vicious false belief is a limitation placed on yourself – if you never apply yourself fully, how can you actually get there?
2. There’s something you still need to learn from it.
Lessons are undoubtedly difficult to learn. Sometimes, no matter how much we want to let something go and how much we want to stop holding ourselves back, it still happens. Being open to the experience at hand is key to learning a difficult lesson or letting go of something.
For example: Experiencing a break up isn’t something that we’re typically open to, right? It can be easier to hang on to the right thing than it is to let go. But until you experience that break up, that pain, then you can’t experience that ‘lesson’. Even if the lesson is to simply honor the fact that you weren’t happy and that relationship wasn’t for you, that can’t happen until you let go and stop holding yourself back. With most of the situations where there’s still something ‘missing’ or a lesson to be learned, more often than not, you can break down that wall just be removing yourself from negativity.
If it doesn’t vibe with you or it doesn’t match up with your beliefs, then don’t do it. Honor that voice that tells you something isn’t right or that this isn’t for you. Getting a different job may not be seen as removing yourself from a negative situation but if it’s causing you unrest, then its a negative situation.
3. You told yourself you’re not ready- but you are!
If you’ve ever spoken with me, you’d know that I’m huge on mindset and the powers that our mind has over our reality. If you tell yourself that you cannot do something, then you won’t be able to do it. This particular lesson was actually passed down from my mother who was quick to correct me every time I said, “I can’t do that.” At the time it was probably annoying but I’m so grateful that she did!
If you tell yourself that you aren’t ready or that you can’t do something, then that will be your reality. You’re creating that limitation and placing it on yourself! You are ready, that’s why you’re here! If you weren’t ready to let go and to stop holding yourself back, then you wouldn’t be reading this right now!
4. You haven’t given yourself permission to move on.
Swallow that pill quickly and quietly! If you haven’t told yourself that is time to move on and if you haven’t accepted that you are not the things that are limiting you, then you aren’t giving yourself permission to be better than the things that are holding you back. If you don’t know what I mean by permission or think this is a repeat of number 3, let me explain.
If you think about something and come to the conclusion that you can’t do it, you’re creating a negative belief. Tell yourself 100 times that you can’t do something, do you honestly think you could? I know you can but that’s besides the point. If you don’t even allow yourself the opportunity to think about what it would be like to throw off those chains and break those bonds, then you’re not giving yourself permission to move forward. You’re not challenging your mindset and you’re not evaluating what would truly be best for you!
5. It’s terrifying and uncomfortable.
It’s a whole new world when you break down your walls and tell yourself that you can and will do something. If you’ve never truly pursued something that speaks to you then it can truly be terrifying to do so. Challenging limiting beliefs is perhaps the most uncomfortable part. Digging through the way you think and the things you say to yourself is the first way to start breaking through that and to discover what you truly desire and deserve! Even if you’re taking baby steps, know that’s still moving forward!
Stop Holding On To Things That No Longer Serve You!
Let go! Move on! Stop holding yourself back and give yourself permission to chase the wind and to ride the waves. Work on who you are and where you’re going. The quote that changed my life was: You only get one life and one body, so you might as well love it. Don’t waste the precious time you have by limiting yourself.